As I get older, the more and more I’m realizing just how much effort relationships really are. I’m not sure when it clicked, maybe this past semester, when I felt super lonely, not because my friends sucked (they don’t, not even a little bit) but because I was waiting around for other people to make the first move. Everyone is busy. Sometimes, you need to take initiative. Not a fun lesson to learn, but I learned it anyway.
The reason I’m writing this is that since it’s summer, all my friends are away – home, doing internships, graduating, moving away…you name it, they’re doing it. Sure, it’s cool, I’m so happy for them, but that means that they don’t live 5 minutes (or less) from my front door – and I don’t love that.
As I’m planning weekend trips to hang out with my friends, I’m reflecting on how easy I thought it was to be friends with people who live close to me. But really, even my Oxford friends take a lot of effort to spend time with. How silly is that. Pretty silly if you ask me, and a little sad. But, we’ll make it work, we all will, won’t we Allison in Nashville? 🙂
I guess the moral of my story (for myself) is not to be lazy anymore, to take every opportunity I have for intentional time, real talk, true friendship, not just existing close to one another. Pardon the cliche, but, it’s my life. And my blog.